Everybody’s having a Baby!
Well I guess this is what happens when you go travelling ‘at my age’ of soon-to-be 25. You leave, and everything is normal. You come back and all of a sudden, everyone is pregnant or just had a baby. The list of friends/family is up to four. It seems like a lot when the number was previously zero. Not only that, there seems to be an extreme number of friends/family members getting married all of a sudden. And to foreigners. What’s up with that? I somehow doubt I’ll be joining that club anytime soon. I’m kinda happy just living in limbo here in Taiwan with my American boyfriend and pretending to myself that everything is the same. And shopping. And getting my hair done. And buying $6 shoes. And still figuring out what I’m going to do with my life. And listening to some gay guy tell me I should reproduce as soon as possible because the future of acceptance of gay rights depends on educated people reproducing as much as possible. hmmm. It’s nice. Will I wake up one day and realize that I’m beyond the motherly age? Will my maternal instincts ever kick in? Will I ever decide to live in one place? The question remains….
I hear you on that one…. Only good thing is that I am living in Holland where all the women have babies before they get married, in fact, they do not care if they get married at all (generally) but do it for tax reasons after the baby comes, and they have babies later then our Canadian friends. But, the babies are still comnig…. dun dun dun.
This is SO true. Here I am, just 25, and as I come upon friends from high school and college, they’re either trying, pregnant with twins, or ALREADY have TWO kids. Its CRAZY to me. I’m still figuring out my life!! The wedding craze has already come and gone while me and my boyfriend of six years are still happily living together sans-contract. You know what though? I think you can answer your questions about your future as a mother the same way we answer the questions of “so when’s the wedding?” My answer is (get this) when I feel like it. When I’m ready. When I have a reason for it. When I want it. But right now, I don’t feel like a wedding, I’m not ready, we have no reason to do it and quiet frankly, we don’t want to. Let the question remain in THEIR minds. In your mind, just keep pursuing happiness, right? If its travel, if its non-maternal freedom, just pursue it until your idea of happiness changes. I don’t like societal norms weighing on my shoulders and I wouldn’t want that for anyone else. I just hope that none of them got married or had a kid because of societal pressures………. …though I’m afraid a small few have…